Beyond Fame: Unlocking Self-Worth and Authentic Happiness

Are you chasing fame or something you really desire, thinking it will solve all your problems? Ever believe that being in the limelight will be the ultimate solution? We've all been there, chasing that dream job, recognition, or perfect life, thinking it will bring us ultimate happiness. But what really happens when you finally reach that milestone—or even fall short?

In this episode, you discover practical tools to find fulfillment and self-worth from within. You will also learn how to use gratitude lists, self-awareness, and focused intention to achieve true happiness, regardless of external validation. Uncover the secrets to self-esteem through actionable steps and understand why even the most successful people are still searching for more.

"Do you ever think about being famous or just getting something you really want, as if it's going to fix everything?."– Lauren (00:00)

Lauren shares three simple steps to shift your perspective and focus on genuine fulfillment rather than external recognition. She discusses the importance of gratitude, understanding true desires, and building self-esteem through tangible actions. Whether you are aiming to start a podcast, write a book, or find a soul mate, Lauren offers you actionable advice and encourages connecting with like-minded individuals for support and accountability.

“It's by doing esteemable acts that we get self-esteem. It's by walking through our fears that you get self-esteem.” – Lauren (04:54)

"What is it that you really want? What fills you with joy?" - Lauren Abrams, (7:13)

Lauren Abrams dives deep into the myth of fame and explores why it's not the ultimate solution we often think it is. Lauren delves into the core of our desires and unveils three transformative steps to shift your focus from external validation to inner fulfillment.

Discover simple yet powerful tools to boost your self-esteem, harness the power of gratitude, and stay true to your authentic self. Whether you’re longing to stand in the limelight, write a bestselling book, or find your soul mate, Lauren offers actionable insights to help you achieve your dreams without relying on fleeting fame.

"We can reimagine ourselves. We can make ourselves into anything we want." - Lauren Abrams, (8:31)

Tune in to redefine your goals, amplify your joy, and become the master of your destiny. Don’t miss out on this empowering episode that promises to guide you towards a more fulfilling and vibrant life!

In this episode:

(00:00) Desire for fame and success and the disappointments
(00:57) Feelings of inadequacy
(02:15) Tools and steps to move beyond the limiting beliefs
(02:40) Using jealousy and disappointment to identify personal desires
(04:54) Getting self-esteem by doing esteemable acts
(05:42) Focusing on the good instead of focusing on the lack
(06:02) Visualizing future success and using role models for inspiration
(08:37) You have the power to transform your life.
(10:07) The importance of accountability and accountability partners
(10:40) Underlying motivations for fame and success

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Lauren will help you learn the following:

Discover what's truly behind the gut-wrenching feeling of missing out and why it hurts so much.
How creating a gratitude list can shift your energy from lack to abundance.
Esteemable acts for self-esteem as powerful actions to boost your self-worth and face your fears.
Find your joy by getting clarity on what makes you happy beyond the allure of fame and recognition.

If you're uncertain whether fame will solve your problems or fulfill your dreams, this episode is just what you need.

Key Takeaways

"And to think that being famous is gonna fix it or create what we wanna create, it's not."-Lauren (01:47).

"I'm not enough, no, you are enough, and you have all these amazing qualities and all these things you can do right now."- Lauren (03:43)

Lauren Abrams [00:00:00] Do you ever think about being famous or just getting something you really want if it's going to fix everything? It's going to be some easy way to take care of everything? If you're only famous, then that is the end all be all. So a friend of mine, she was supposed to be on a famous show, and in her mind that was it. And she was so excited about it. Anyway, she called me devastated because she was canceled from being on the show. No explanation was given. And of course she's disappointed, but I wanted to work through it with her because I wanted to see what was behind all of it. Really, when you look at what was that going to do? Being famous or being on a famous show or something like that, what are you trying to get out of it? So first I wanted to see what was behind the disappointment and what's behind it is feeling like she's not enough, which I totally get. I mean, who of us doesn't understand or relate to that? Like I'm not enough? For me, it would be like, they found out who I really am and know, like, oh, I don't want her. And then I was like, okay, do a gratitude list just to get out of that. Give some equal vibrational energy to like, of course you're enough. And of course you're great because she is great. She's an amazing person, and that vehicle for what she's wanting in her life isn't even the right one. But that doesn't matter, because we have our feelings and what she's trying to build and create and do. Because she's incredibly amazing and she knows a gazillion famous people, so that's not even it. So it's the feelings. And to think that being famous or being famous is going to fix it or create what we want to create, it's not. So I want to talk about how we get beyond those limiting beliefs or those ideas that being famous or being with someone famous or any of that is going to somehow do it for us, because even famous people, there's somebody more famous or there's somebody with more. And what we focus on grows. So there's simple, easy tools to get exactly what it is that you want. And you don't have to be famous, and that's not going to fix anything. There's always something more. And if you're focusing on the lack, then that's what you're going to see. So there's three easy steps that you can do and I've just kind of mentioned a couple of them anyway. So number one, when wanting something quick and easy for me it's like, they must have so much help. They must have it so much easier. They know people. They got there so fast, they didn't. There's no way they did. So when we're disappointed, or for me, if I'm jealous of somebody, I take that as a sign. Oh, that's something that I want. I now use that information as a way to see that that's clearly something that I want to do, and I get to use that information now. So if there's something that you want, take a look at what's underneath when I'm disappointed or if there's something I really want to do, what's underneath that, why do I want that? And so that's what I did with my friend. First she wrote a gratitude list. So just to give the vibrational energy instead of looking at the lack and I'm not good enough and all that. So look at everything that you're grateful for, whatever you're grateful for, you have in your life right now. So that gives equal weight to me. No, you are enough. And you have all these amazing qualities and all these things you can do right now. And so to take a look at those gives equal weight and even greater weight to you. And you have all these amazing, wonderful things. And you can get back to that joy in gratitude and your authentic self, because that's the truth. And what's underneath that? What is it that you really want? What brings you joy? What is it that you want to do? What were you hoping to get out of being when you think about being famous or doing that thing, what are you hoping to get out of it? What's underneath? You can just write for free, right? What am I hoping to get from being famous or being with someone famous? Is it accolades? Is it that your ego needs a boost? Okay, what's behind that? If my ego gets a boost, then I feel good about myself. I feel like I was somebody. Think about that then, you know. Oh, I'm not feeling good about myself. So when you know that, then you can take action and go, oh, my self-esteem needs some help. Then you can do things like look in the mirror and say, I love you. I am a worthy person. I'm a great person and do those estimable acts. It's right to do a simple act. So that we get self-esteem. It's by walking through our fears that you get self esteem and you can show other people, oh, it's okay. I recognize my fear. I'm walking through it and you can show other people, and that's how you get confidence and stop being afraid to take those next future small steps and actions. And that's how you get self esteem. And looking in the mirror and looking people in the face and doing those things that you're afraid of. That's how you get self esteem. And if it's somebody that is in the limelight and you want to be in the limelight, find out how they went about doing it. You can do it too. And the second thing is to focus on the good. There is so much good about you instead of focusing on the lack. There is so much that you have right now and focusing on that and on what it is that you want to achieve. I just read a thing about Jim Carrey had absolutely nothing, and he wrote himself a check for ten years in the future for whatever it was, and he kept seeing himself as a successful comedian in the future. And that's all he focused on. Focus on what it is that you really want in your future, and use that person as a mentor, even if they don't know that you're their mentor. See how they got to where they are? People want to help you. They really do. So call people to say, how did you get to where you are? You don't have to invent the wheel. People want to help. If the person you contact doesn't want you, find somebody who does. There are so many that will help you get to where it is you want to go. You want to be on podcasts, there are so many ways to find out how to be on a podcast. Do you want to be on a show? Do you want to be on whatever it is? Do you want to write a book? There are so many ways to find out how to write a book, and you can get in a group and write a book together. Do you want to find your soulmate? There are so many ways to find out how to find your soulmate. You don't have to settle in any area of your life. Start your own business instead of working for somebody else and having no life. There are so many ways to find out how to do that, and that's a good segue into the third item. What is it that you really want? What fills you with joy? What is the underlying thing that you want? Is it that you want to make a lot of money because that will give you freedom, and that you can then go and enjoy your life and laugh with your friends just laugh from the gut? Like I talked about in the beginning of the episode, breathe and just be in nature, whatever it is that you enjoy. Is that what you want to do? What is it that you want? You want to just read books or get out, enjoy sports, or go and see the world and travel. Whatever it is that you really want to do. You can do it. You just need to get clarity on what it is that you want to do. So my friend, who was so disappointed because she got really caught up in the fact that she was supposed to be on a show with somebody because they are famous, and it ends up that they aren't that amazing anyway, and they aren't that famous. And fame is fleeting. So what's it mean anyway? I mean, Andy Warhol 50 minutes. Anybody can be famous for 15 minutes. So what? What's important to you? What is your authentic self? What is it that you really want? We can re-imagine ourselves. We can make ourselves into anything we want. We all have our own unique handprint. I've turned myself from, I mean, I was an alcoholic drug addict and turned that around and got an education and became an attorney. And now I'm a podcaster and we can do anything. We can turn our lives around. If you can see it, you can be it. That's what Angela Manuel Davis always says. So what we focus on grows the neuroplasticity of our brain. The more we see things, the more our brains are malleable, Science proves that. So the more that you focus on what it is that you really want. And again, you don't have to invent the wheel. You can see how other people have done what it is that you really want to do. If you want to be famous, that's great. You can do that. You can do whatever it is that you really want to do, as long as you're willing to just put in that footwork. It's not as easy as just going on a show. And then if you see it that way and you think that's going to be a fix, it's really important then to see. And I relate to it. I was like, oh, I just want to be on some famous podcast, talk about my podcast, and then my podcast will be the number one podcast. It doesn't work that way. That's what I thought in the beginning. Here I am, 200 episodes in and I'm like, no, I know how to do this. And if you want to know, by the way, how to do a podcast and do it the right way, I will show you absolutely how to do it. We meet once a month and we talk about how to start a podcast, and it's more about accountability. We just all. Talk about it and you are so welcome to join us. And if you want to start dating or write a book, it's not about just podcasting. It's about accountability partners. We just take accountability to each other. And it's great and it's a safe space to do that. I am a huge, huge believer in being accountable to each other. So just send me a note and I will let you know. We just get on zoom and everybody shares about what they're doing, and we say out loud what we're staying accountable for till the next meeting. And we help each other. So it's a great thing to do. But again, back to that famous thing. So if you're thinking, I want to be famous for this and this is an easy way to get to X, Y, or Z, it's very important to look at the underlying thing that you want because there's something underlying that. And you can get there and it's great. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just to look at what is underlying that. And hopefully these tips will help you to get there. And how if you look at what it is that you really want and, and you can have all of it and more, so much more. I mean, the sky's the limit here, and it's all part of our evolution and our growth and our high vibrating community. Here in 52 Weeks of Hope.