Stop Sabotaging Yourself: Embracing Your Inner Confidence with Madi Maple
Are you ready to break free from self-doubt and an ordinary life? Do you know you’re meant for something bigger, but your head and limiting beliefs keep getting in the way? Listen and learn how to ditch that inner critic and stop playing small. Quit people pleasing and learn how to be true to who you know you’re meant to be.
“When it comes to confidence and who you are, you can’t love yourself if you’re not being yourself.” – Madi (4:22)
Listen as renowned Confidence Coach Madi Maple helps you begin living in a world where limiting beliefs no longer rule. Her inspiring journey and philosophy on affirmations and how to use evidence to drive them is nothing short of amazing! She’s here to share powerful insights that will free your mind and allow you to embrace and unleash the confident person that dwells within.
“Confidence was not even in my vocabulary.” – Madi (5:04)
If you’ve been wondering why the life you’ve been speaking into existence has yet to manifest, Madi is here to help you find that missing piece. Listen as she offers a simple, yet powerful approach that will move you into living the life you’ve always desired!
“When you have enough evidence to support the new belief, that new belief will outweigh the past belief.” – Madi (18:16)
In This Episode:
(4:00) – What appeared to be a rebellion was just Madi’s way of expressing herself.
(5:18) – Why pivoting matters.
(9:52) – Healing as part of your journey.
(10:57) – The keys to finding your best self.
(13:44) – The four different pillars of confidence
(14:46) – The Belief Work Process
(14:53) – All beliefs are fake and are nothing more than your perceptions.
(15:10) – Everything, even the facts, are completely neutral.
(15:23) – Taking your power back from beliefs.
(15:54) – Evidence is the missing piece to affirmations.
(16:44) – Write your affirmations, but also write evidence that supports them.
(17:34) – Be sure to make time to shift your filter.
(20:52) – You can still go after your dreams with self-doubt.
(21:20) – Confidence is a choice.
(26:36) – The definition of authenticity varies from person to person.
(29:00) – Being yourself isn’t hard, it’s the places we go that make it hard.
(33:05) – Truly believing that things can change makes all the difference.
Resources and Links
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Madi Maple
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Lauren [00:00:00] Welcome to 52 Weeks of Hope. This is where you get to hear how to feel happy, balanced and worthwhile. How to make that lonely ache vanish and feel empowered, confident and secure. I am Lauren Abrams, and I get to help you feel that magic again. Just going through my own dark night of the soul by chatting with incredible leaders, healers, and change agents who give you their message of hope after overcoming challenges of their own. And today we're talking to a confidence coach, podcaster, manifester Madi Maple. Are you sick of just going through the motions of your day, week in your life? Are you ready to seriously up level your confidence, your purpose, and live your passion? You're lucky because you get to hear the best confidence from manifester today and help you walk through your fears and live the life you used to dream about. Welcome to 52 Weeks of Hope, Madi.
Madi [00:00:49] Yes. Thank you so much for having me. I am already just like so let up by the energy. I'm so excited. And yeah, I'm honored. Thank you for having me.
Lauren [00:00:57] Yeah, I'm excited. I was like, two confidence manifesters this is going to be so fun! I always say it's finance and romance. Those are the things that give us the most growth. They're the hardest to go through in researching you and everything. It's. It was romance for you that put you through the ringer and got you ultimately to where you are today, which is amazing. And everyone has to look at your website. I love your website. So you want to talk about like what happened to you that ultimately led you to so many aha moments.
Madi [00:01:31] Yeah, absolutely. I will get into the nitty-gritty of my whole story. Hi, guys. I'm Madi Maple, and I currently live in Salt Lake City. I moved away for a little bit. I did some traveling. I lived in L.A., but I just moved back here, and it's actually my hometown, so I grew up here in Utah. I said I would never move back. Like when I moved to L.A., I was like, You know, if Utah get me out of here, like, I will never move back. I'd just bash on it. So I just, like, didn't have the greatest experience here. That's quite funny that I'm back in Utah, and I can get to that later. But yeah, I didn't love Utah. And the reason being is if you're familiar with Utah in the culture, you might know that the Mormon religion is very prevalent here. Like I would say where I grew up, which is like a little bit north of Salt Lake City and like the suburbs, I would say like 80 to 90% of families are Mormon as well as my family. So I grew up Mormon until I was about I didn't leave the church until I was like 19, honestly, which is so crazy. I grew up my whole life in the church and this is a no tea, no shade to the church. But for me personally, I had this experience where I was very much put in this box. And you're also in a community where everyone else is in that box. So if you're not in the box, like it's a little bit intense, like people are judging you, people are knocking on your door asking like, what's wrong with you if you don't show up to church? My God, a lot of, you know, just judgment and criticism in school and then judgment and criticism from my parents. And it was just pretty much like this cloud of guilt. Like, I just felt guilt all the time for being who I was because I started growing up and it was like everything that I enjoyed was wrong. And it wasn't even like me trying to be rebellious. Like, I started drinking coffee and I loved coffee. I just loved it. It was like, these things are almost like a part of my soul. Like I just loved having my morning coffee. If you drink coffee, you cannot be with your family forever. And having thought, you know, I'm just with this guilt. I started really enjoying rap music. I started liking fashion styles that were maybe a little bit like risqué. And I wanted like a nose piercing and like, all of these things. And it really never felt like me rebelling. It felt like these authentic parts of my being and my expression of just things that I really liked to enjoy as a human. Yeah. And then when you're just told over and over, like, that's wrong and everyone's looking at you and judging you, you know, I experienced the guilt and then you also really lose yourself. And I feel like, you know, the one thing I say about confidence, like when it comes to confidence and who you are, you can't love yourself if you're not being yourself. I was always hiding parts of myself more, and I literally hated myself like it wasn't even like, oh, I struggled with self-love. Like I went through the depths of, like, self-hatred, which then, yes, turned into like a very toxic relationship. And I just had no idea who I was, who I thought that I was, was someone that I hated. And yeah, I just went through this really, like, deep, dark experience of, like, confidence was not even in my vocabulary. I was, like, crumbling. And then there are a couple pivotal points for me. And so one of the pivotal points is the breakup that I went through, because I'm sure everyone listening has experienced this in one way or another. You kind of merge your life with this person, and then when you don't have them, you're like, Who am I? Literally, I was like, I don't know who I am. I don't have friends. I don't like. I don't know what to do. Like I'm alone. Like, I literally don't know, even, like, do I have interests? I don't know, because my only interest was being with this person. So that set me on a journey and I ended up getting kicked out of my house. And so then I was like really alone. I was like, okay, I moved out. And then the most pivotal part of my journey was finding festivals and like the EDM community, and I know a lot of people might see like raves, right? It's like raves and festivals. They see it as like everyone just goes and listens to people music and there's lasers and people would like get fucked up. And for me, that just was not my experience. Like, you know, of course I like to party and have fun and, and stuff like that. But when I first found this community of just like festivals, I literally walked in to my first festival and sobbed immediately. I felt what I was told I was supposed to feel in the church, like at a rave, which I know, Guys, it sounds crazy, but this is like, so my truth and here's why. Here's why I felt this way and it was so emotionally overwhelming. I could literally feel the energy. This was the first space I had ever been in where I would not be judged and I could 100% be myself. And I walked in and that was honestly the start of my life. Like, genuinely, that was the start of my life. That almost makes me emotional because it gave me the space to be who I am and find who I was. I could do my hair however I wanted. I could, you know, dress however I wanted. I could like I could literally do whatever with no judgment and not even just no judgment of pure love. I was loved for exactly who I was. And that was life changing for me, because once I had a space where I was able to be who actually I was and create who I wanted to be, then you can fully fall in love with yourself. And then my path kind of spiraled from there of, like I said, I moved to L.A., I started working in entrepreneurship, started my own business, and it's just kind of been this like snowball. But that's kind of I think the important parts of my, like my confidence journey.
Lauren [00:07:35] Yeah, you were raised very repressed. I didn't know any's piercing isn't allowed. Oh, LDS anyway.
Madi [00:07:43] Nothing is allowed, pretty much.
Lauren [00:07:48] That far down, we won't get into that part of it. So wait, why did you move back?
Madi [00:07:54] I went to L.A., started my business, and I just... I'm sorry I hate L.A. it was fun for the first couple of years because I was, like, out of Utah and, like, it was warm and the beach and, like, I was working as a personal assistant for a fashion designer. So I was like, you know, I was in Venice Beach and, like, working and networking, and it was so fun. Then, when I started my business, I became kind of like a homebody, and I just started getting the craziest anxiety. Like I just felt, I just felt icky there. So I was also in a relationship. I got invited to Costa Rica for a retreat, and I had already kind of just not been happy. And so instead of just going on the retreat, I actually broke off my engagement and sold everything that I owned and packed one suitcase and took a one way to Costa Rica.
Lauren [00:08:45] Little. You're not the only one that's done that.
Madi [00:08:47] Yeah. It was just, it was probably the craziest thing I've ever done in my life. But I just left and I traveled for a year and then I just realized that the digital nomad life just, like, really isn't for me. Like, I really needed some grounding and I was having like some health issues and, you know, I just really wanted to like ground and I had been through like just that whole year is kind of traumatic. I just needed a place to like, hibernate and heal and work on my physical health. And my family's here and I was just like, I was like, I can't believe this, but I think I want to move to Utah. All my friends were like you're joking. This is like an April Fool's joke. I'm like, No. And I moved to Utah, but I'm in like a little bit south, like in the city, which is much better now. But I love my family.
Lauren [00:09:33] So it's important. It's really important that we're not alone.
Madi [00:09:38] Exactly.
Lauren [00:09:39] And since the pandemic, I talk about community so much. I'm alone. So much. Yeah. I'm, you know, I work from home now, and anytime anybody wants to see me, I'm like, we'll go walk. We have to go for a hike. We have to get together, we have to be outside. And yes, I see. Anyway, so it's really, really important.
Madi [00:10:02] Exactly. I've never felt so grounded right now. I've got my support system. I've got my people that I love. I've just feel so grounded and that's so important, you know? Speaking of confidence and getting out of your comfort zone and being your best self, like you have to feel safe and grounded for your body to you know, I was getting all types of like physical symptoms of not being grounded and like, you just need your people and your gym.
Lauren [00:10:31] It's so important. I just I told you before we started, I just got back into the country, back here, back to L.A. And when I was out of the country, I was walking 5 to 20 miles a day. I was safe, it was easy. And I'm back in L.A. and I went on a hike first thing, and I there was nobody on the trails and I was with another girlfriend and there was a creepy guy on a rock. And I was like, turn around and I'm like, I have to take a safety class or some kind of self-defense. I'm little and I just said, it's not, it's not ideal.
Madi [00:11:03] You know what's so funny about that? I love that you bring that up because so I host retreats in Costa Rica and a lot of the girls, they get so nervous, they're like, is it safe? Like there's.
Lauren [00:11:13] Yeah
Madi [00:11:14] Oh, my gosh. And I tell these girls, I'm like, we are brainwashed. We are actually brainwashed to think that, like, I would never walk around at night alone around my apartment here in Utah, in Costa Rica, or I'm walking through the jungle to I am like, you know, obviously I'm I'm safe. That's an exaggeration, but other countries. I feel safer in Mexico than I do in the United States. I will just say that.
Lauren [00:11:44] I can't speak for Mexico.
Madi [00:11:46] But in certain parts
Lauren [00:11:48] I was in Israel, which I was like, shocked. It's not with the news to fix. Mm-hmm. At all. I was so safe. That's what I'm saying. It was insane
Madi [00:11:59] We're so, we're so brainwashed. Oh my gosh. Like, I'm scared to get in Ubers here. But, you know, I land in Cancun, I get a taxi to Tulum. I'm literally not afraid at all. Like I'm because they're they're just doing their job. They want to make money. People in the States are more and more mentally ill, I think. So anyway. Yeah. So.
Lauren [00:12:20] Okay. So you help people break free from limiting beliefs.
Madi [00:12:24] Yes.
Lauren [00:12:24] And I have so many tools for people to walk through their fears because it's all in their head. Yeah. And here you are. You've broken you're an example of breaking free from limiting beliefs. Utah.
Madi [00:12:38] Yeah
Lauren [00:12:39] Because they are your peeps and we can do whatever we want in this life, you know, as long as we want to and you're helping others. So I feel like service is such a big part of it. You're a living example of the two things we need most in our in this life community and service and full of love, which you are, obviously. So how do you help other people break free from their limiting beliefs?
Madi [00:13:01] Yeah. Let's get into it. So when I talk about confidence, there's like these four different pillars, right? There are the beliefs, There is authenticity, which I kind of talked about that in my story, right? You can't love yourself if you're not being yourself. There's authenticity. There's action. So like, action is everything but right. You can't have fear and doubt if you're an action. And the last one is trust, right? Trust in yourself and trust in the universe, honestly, and in the bigger vision. So when we're talking about beliefs and limiting beliefs, yeah, I have like a little bit of a different approach. If you know anything about the archetypes, I'm very much the hero archetype, like I'm an Aries, I'm a Scorpio, I'm pretty, a masculine like I'm just very fiery, right? And so my philosophy with beliefs, there are two parts of that, right? So actually, I'll start with this first. So let's talk about how to actually work through the belief and then I'll talk about kind of my fiery approach and a little bit of guidance around the beliefs work. So first off, when I work with beliefs with my clients, the first thing is just realizing that all beliefs are fake. Like all thoughts, are perceptions. Everything is completely neutral, and humans have created all these different perceptions and thoughts and beliefs, right? And even things that feel like facts. They're still beliefs, but they're just beliefs that we all agree upon, right? Everything is just completely neutral. And when you can really land into that concept, I think that's when you can actually start to shift your beliefs because you can really just look at a belief and you take your power back from it because you just realize it's just it's literally just like a made up thing. You can believe whatever the fuck you want, even the ones again that feel very true. So the reason beliefs feel very true and why beliefs might even manifest in your life and show themselves to be true is because we are always finding evidence to support our beliefs. And guys, I love affirmations, I love them. But I think there's a missing piece to affirmations. And the missing piece is this evidence piece. So when we obtain a belief that, like, you know, I'm not good enough, we live our life through a filter where we are constantly gaining evidence to support that belief. So, you know, you do something and you don't you don't live up to what you thought you're going to. All right. Boom. That's like you can put like a well tally mark under I'm not good enough. And then you keep going through life and here's another experience and this person rejected you and you just keep adding up these tally marks of like, see, here are 50 reasons why I'm not good enough. But the thing is, there is also a lot of evidence to prove that you were good enough. You just didn't see it because you're living through this filter. So when we start shifting our beliefs and you start deciding, okay, you know, I don't want to believe this anymore. I want to believe this other thing. All right? Write your affirmations like I'm all for it. Write your affirmations. But when you write your affirmations, also write evidence that supports those new affirmations. So if you're trying to shift into I am good enough. Okay, in your journal, write I am good enough.
Lauren [00:16:20] How about I am great?
Madi [00:16:22] Or I am great. Whatever language you want to use, we can even use, you know, like, money is scarce, right? That's a great one. All right. I believe money is scarce. And then just ask, All right? I want to believe, like there is money in the world. I do have access.
Lauren [00:16:38] And it flows easily and effortlessly to me. Continuously, easily and effortlessly to me.
Madi [00:16:44] Yeah, whatever language you want to use. And then. But then you ask. Okay, why? What proves this to be true? And then you have to start shifting your filter, right? Because a lot of people they'll write down, you know, I deserve like there's a man out there that's going to treat me right and he's on his way to me. And then they go out into their life and they're literally just seeing all these shitty men and they're like, He's socks and he socks and he just cheated on my friend. And look at this guy. All right, well, you just wrote ten times in your journal. I believe there's a good guy, you know, there's good men out there, and then you're just picking. You're looking at just all the men that suck. So shift the filter and start finding the men that don't suck. Right? Start adding on that evidence and be like, Oh, well, you know what, Kelly? Her husband's really sweet to her. And oh, I just saw this ticktock video of this guy that did this really kind of thing for his wife. And you start building the evidence for your new belief. And when you have enough evidence to support the new belief, that new beliefs will outweigh the past belief. Right. But it is about you know, it's not just about just saying it and just be like, you know, I'm great, I'm great, I'm great. It's about actually going into your life and intentionally building up the case for that belief and saying, okay, why am I great? Okay, well, here's a reason and here's a reason, and let me go throughout my day and, you know, really, really like, you know, support that belief, just like I supported my old belief.
Lauren [00:18:09] It's like when you want that certain type of car and suddenly they appear everywhere, you start seeing them everywhere.
Madi [00:18:15] Exactly.
Lauren [00:18:15] And it's also whenever you tell yourself you're right.
Madi [00:18:18] Oh, yeah, I lived through my filter of the filter of I suck all my teenage years. Here's a great example. Like, imagine you go into a party and you walk in and you believe that you are annoying and like no one really likes you, right? I felt that as a teenager I was like, No one really wants to hang out with me, like I'm annoying, or I'm weird or whatever, and you walk in and as soon as you walk in, you see someone in the corner roll their eyes and immediately you're like, Oh my God, they just saw me. And they're annoyed that I'm here. They're probably like, Who invited her? And I add that to my evidence box. I'm like, See? I'm like, guys, see, I am annoying. When really he was rolling his eyes to something fucking different.
Lauren [00:19:01] Somebody was talking. You had nothing to do with you. It's the whole like.
Madi [00:19:04] Exactly. Yeah. And then imagine you walk in and you're like, I love myself. Everyone's obsessed with me. You could walk in and see someone, like, literally light up when you walk in the room, but it was like they saw someone behind you, right? And you see her and you're like, Oh, my God, Yeah. They're so happy I'm here. Like, everyone loves me. You add that to that evidence. Yeah, dude, everything's natural.
Lauren [00:19:25] And you just So before you walk and do your superwoman pose, put your hands on your waist, and it just does something to your friends and your brain too.
Madi [00:19:36] Oh, my God. Posture is so huge. So, huge. So that's kind of my process with, with beliefs and my take on like the actual work of moving through it. But then the other part of me, what I was saying about me being a little bit fiery and a little bit of like this hero just do it archetype is part. So there's a time and a place to work through the limiting belief. There's a time and a place to journal about it and really like see where did it come from. And you know, this is not other times you guys, you just need to hear the thought and just say, Just shut the fuck up. Honestly, just you hear it. You hear you because it's not you, right? Your brain is.
Lauren [00:20:14] Thanks for sharing and just go.
Madi [00:20:16] Yeah, your brain is like, I'm not good enough. And you just say to your brain, Hi brain. Like, that's so interesting. You think that. But like, I just I'm not going to listen to that today. It's its the whole, you know, feel the fear and do it anyway. Yeah. You can still go after your dreams with self-doubt. You can still go after dreams with imposter syndrome, with fear. And you should you should walk the walk with it, right? Because it's not about necessarily getting rid of the negative thoughts. I believe that confidence is a choice, truly.
Lauren [00:20:44] It's. Yeah.
Madi [00:20:46] Dude, yesterday I was like having.
Lauren [00:20:47] Like, human condition and through it, Randy time you do anything new, it's going to rear its head at some point. Yeah. Who do you think you are doing? X, Y and Z? Whatever it is.
Madi [00:21:00] Exactly. It's about what you do with that thought that creates the confidence. Truly. It's not about not having the thoughts about what you do with it. Like, you know, yesterday I was I don't know why I was like, I've been doing this work for seven, eight years. And I was like looking in the mirror and I was like, Oh my God, I look so ugly. Like, why? And I just stopped. And I'm like, That's dumb. Like, I know, I'm just I'm just not going to feed into that today. I just chose not that's just not what I'm going to give power to that. It's as simple as that.
Lauren [00:21:30] Yeah, and I did do I told you I went live yesterday and I was watching it just to make sure it came out okay because I was having text. She's early as my eyes look closed. Why do my eyes look closed? And I just kept going I didn't look at it any more like that. Like I don't care. Like, whatever. Keep going back. You know? Like it.
Madi [00:21:47] Just whatever. Exactly. It's like sometimes it's just like the power we give to the thoughts, right? Everyone has negative thoughts. You just. Sometimes you have to just brush it off. And I don't mean to, like, spiritually bypass at all and say, you know, like, oh, your feelings are stupid, or your thoughts are stupid, but also some.
Lauren [00:22:05] Really all the thoughts you have to like, the feelings you have to feel. If you don't feel your feelings, it's got to come out some other place and like it just is bad. You have to feel your feelings. I've learned that later. I wish I knew that way back when. But anyway, it's like, Oh, because they have a life span. I've interviewed enough people to know I had no idea. They just pass and they'll pass through your body and everything else you knew. Yeah, I thought they last forever, so I didn't want to feel them. But I've learned. No, just your. Your feelings. Move through it and. Okay.
Madi [00:22:37] Oh, my gosh. Yes. That's why I love crying. I just like. Oh, I love crying. It's like the best emotional release. I just feel it's just.
Lauren [00:22:44] So close for you, so healthy. Okay, so wait, you said on authenticity. I wrote a note because I don't want to forget how to be yourself. So many people just don't even know how to do that. And. And I want to get to this because you have a good social media presence. They have all these filters now. I have no idea who it was. They're like, there's a filter where you can make your face the perfect shape and you can do this and that. How can you ever go out from behind a screen if you've done all those things?
Madi [00:23:15] Mm hmm.
Lauren [00:23:16] Yeah. The other question.
Madi [00:23:17] Yeah, totally.
Lauren [00:23:19] That's not authentic.
Madi [00:23:20] I agree. And I disagree. So there are some filters that I totally agree are taking it way too far where. Yeah, you know, and those people that are using those filters are going to learn very quickly that it's not good for their mental health because they are afraid to, you know, go out in person and meet people. And, you know, even if they're dating online, like, oh, my gosh, they're gonna learn very quickly, like stop using the filters because you're going to be in a catfish situation and it's not good. On the other hand, part of me does love the filters because certain ones, right? If it changes your face like so, so, so much like, okay, it can be dangerous. But I love the filters. I love things that smooth out my skin a little bit. Give me some eyelashes, give me some sparkle.
Lauren [00:24:07] Okay. Look, I Yeah, I don't mind, though. I like the tone ones. Yeah, stuff like that. You never have to wear makeup again to go online.
Madi [00:24:15] Exactly. And I think there's this, like, empowering thing of, like, you know, I think our little, like, avatar we have, you know, like the body that we have on this planet, it's such an art form. Like, it's so fun to, like, create this kind of avatar and like, who you want to, like, present yourself as, like, even, you know, plastic surgery. I always tell my girls in my program when we talk about body image, I'm like, I love Juvederm, I love it. I get my lips done. Twice a year, I've gotten Botox. I love eyelash extensions, I love hair extensions, all of it. I love it because it's not me trying to hide. It's I'm not, like, embarrassed of my natural features or hiding anything. I just think it's really fun. Like, I like to create and be expressive in that way. So I think with the right intention being super filtered and editing your photos and getting different like plastic surgery, as long as this with the intention of creation and fun and it's almost like this one for.
Lauren [00:25:17] Yeah
Madi [00:25:19] I love it.
Lauren [00:25:20] You're not taking away your authentic self.
Madi [00:25:22] Yeah, exactly. Because filters can be authentic, like it might be authentic to you to always be, like, super filtered and have things look perfect. Like that might be authentic. Right? And I think like a big misconception to with authenticity is like people think being authentic means you need to be really, like, bold or like outspoken in a sense, like, have like a unique style. Authenticity to you could literally be wearing the same black t shirt every single day. And that's just what feels like you. So it doesn't have to be easy.
Lauren [00:25:54] Yeah. Easier.
Madi [00:25:55] Yeah. Authenticity doesn't look any different way. It feels a certain way.
Lauren [00:26:00] I think it's being vulnerable. Be your true self. It's how we get people to actually do that is. I'm not. I just wonder. Because you then went on to trust. Mm hmm. How to trust. Like the process to be yourself. How do you get people to do that?
Madi [00:26:16] Mm hmm. Yeah. I think when it comes to trusting and being yourself again, we can really look to that evidence piece of, like, for example, I was. I had a girl come on my retreat, and the ones I do in San Diego, and she was, like, so afraid of kind of like being herself and being her full self. She came on my retreat and she was in this, you know, space where she could be herself. And we all loved her like, Oh my God, we were just like dying over her. She was just being so herself and real and like, we were just all being silly and we just yeah, we loved her. I mean, we loved each other, all of us there. And then one of the things she said after that retreat was like, I will take that with me. And like, remember, it's that piece of evidence, right? That I was 100% being myself and you guys loved me. And since I know that that is possible, that is something you can't take away. And so I feel like my biggest advice and trusting is to, you know, even take that story for evidence of your own. Be like, okay, well, if she was herself and people loved her, let me just try it. Let me experiment. You don't even need to trust first. Just experiment and see. And I just I highly recommend, you know, going back to my story about festivals and finally having that space where I could really create myself, if I could give any recommendation to anyone that's struggling to be themselves, take inventory of your life and limit anything that doesn't make you feel like yourself and start creating spaces where you can be yourself. If you have a friend that comments on how you look, what you dress, what you do, limit your time with them. If you have a friend that totally loves like supports you just being exactly who you are. Hang out with them more if you are in a job that you know limits your expression. Like that's something to think about. Literally, just start moving into places where you can be yourself. I don't think it's hard to be yourself. I think that we're in places that make it hard. That's the thing.
Lauren [00:28:15] Yeah, definitely. So how do you help people know what their superpower is?
Madi [00:28:22] Yeah, superpower. So when it comes to that, I mean, one of my biggest teachings is accepting who you are or not and amplify who you are. And I think that people, superpowers are usually right in front of their face. Right. It's really not that hard to find. Sometimes it's just realizing that it doesn't need to look a certain way. You know, some people's superpower is being like the best social media content creation person, and so it gets them millions of followers and all of these likes and all of this praise and all of this money. Right. That might be their superpower. And it looks very glamorous. And so people look at that and be like, well, I have nothing like, what do I have? Your superpower could just be kindness. And we need to take away this ego filled perspective that our superpower should be huge and glamorous, like whatever is your strength, big or small, that you've always had within you like that. I think we don't see our superpower because we think it should look a different way, if that makes sense.
Lauren [00:29:26] Yeah, totally makes sense. So when people ask you what you do, what do you tell them?
Madi [00:29:31] Like career wise, it's changed a lot. I used to say, Coach, like, Oh, I'm a life coach now. I would say I'm a retreat host and more of an experience creator, and I'm a business consultant as well. So I'd say I would say retreat host and business consultant.
Lauren [00:29:51] Because you have so many different programs that you offer.
Madi [00:29:55] I do so many things sometimes I just say I'm in the personal development industry because I pretty much I pretty much do everything in the personal talent industry. So, yeah.
Lauren [00:30:07] So what's the hardest challenge that you've overcome and how did you do it?
Madi [00:30:11] I'm trying to think of something different than what I've already said because I would say like that self-hatred I went through and coming out of that was definitely it. I think one of the hardest things I've overcome is like recently is like a little bit of, like, guilt and feeling like wrong, like feeling bad or feeling wrong or feeling like, you know, oh, I'm not making the right decisions or whatever. And being able to, like, really find my power again. And it really has been what we were talking about, just like shutting it down. You know, even like with my breakup and things like, I was always just like, oh my gosh, like, did I make a mistake? Like, I didn't trust myself? And I felt all this guilt for, like, I don't know, just who I was and choosing myself and all these things. And I had to just, like, keep bringing myself back into my power. And I feel like that's been one of the most challenging things for me. Like, I thought that I had found my power and like, went through my whole confidence journey. And then life is like, No, we're going to put you into this whirlwind of confusion and like, guilt for, like, not even doing anything wrong. I just felt like not I just wasn't in my power. And yet bringing myself into power and consistently every day being like, No, I trust myself, I trust my decisions. I believe in myself, like I know what's best for me. Like, that has been such an amazing journey for me. I wouldn't say that was the most difficult, but something different that I've already shared.
Lauren [00:31:40] Yeah, no, I understand. I think. Okay, I've been through it.
Madi [00:31:44] That's good.
Lauren [00:31:46] Yeah. Which I mean, I went through it 30 years ago, but then I went and I was like, nothing would ever have been that hard again. But then I. I've been now life. Now it's. It's life, you know.
Madi [00:32:01] Yeah. Definitely not linear.
Lauren [00:32:03] Yeah. Now it just is and you just go through it. But. So, do you have a message of hope you want to give?
Madi [00:32:11] Yes, absolutely. My message of hope is like, truly, if you can truly, truly believe that things can change, like they can change, we often feel so stuck. And there's been like so many times in my life where I thought like, Oh, I'm going to be like this forever. I'm going to struggle with this forever. Like I get stuck in this like, Oh, it's always going to be like this. It's never going to change. Trust me, things can change. Things can change in an instant. Like you never know when something can just happen to you, or you meet the right person, or you find the right thing, or you listen to the right podcast. Or like, my message would just be to live every life with this openness of like anything could present itself to me today, and it could completely change my life. And I'm never stuck in any situation. Yeah, that would be my message of hope.
Lauren [00:33:09] Yeah, it's so true. I mean, I have a friend that within no time she met her soulmate. I mean, truly, they've been together. They have three kids, but she met her soulmate, was married, they bought a home and she was pregnant with in such a short span of time. Yeah, it was nuts. And they're still together. They have three kids. I mean, it's been a rough 20 years. I don't even know how long.
Madi [00:33:36] I had a friend that was doing a podcast for almost two years, and it barely, like, it didn't really go anywhere. She didn't have any listeners. She showed up every single week for two years, and then she had a TikTok blow up and she just surpassed a million downloads on her podcast just for right, just like a couple of TikTok talks like blew up completely changed the course of her life and her mission and what she's creating. And you never know. You literally never know when you could walk around the corner and your life can change.
Lauren [00:34:06] So yeah, anything just from showing up each day and you can manifest anything.
Madi [00:34:12] Yeah, exactly.
Lauren [00:34:15] And this is so fun. Is there anything else I should have asked you that will be done and you'll be like, Lauren didn't ask me this?
Madi [00:34:22] No, I feel actually really good about everything we shared. I feel like we covered a lot, and I hope everyone listening, at least you know something they can take with them. Yeah. No, I feel good.
Lauren [00:34:32] Yeah, right. This is so great. And we'll have links to Madi's website and everything else. Thank you so much for being a guest today.
Madi [00:34:40] Yes, thank you. I'm so grateful. And yeah, we're gonna have a beautiful day.
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