How to Heal Your Physical and Emotional Pain with Shalini Joshi Yamdagni
Are you stuck in physical pain? Do you have emotional wounds? Feeling down? Sluggish? Experience profound relief in this week's episode as Shalini helps you shift out of pain and back into life easily and smoothly. Listen as you’re guided through simple steps discovered after doctors confined her to permanent bedrest.
“Eventually after trying everything possible out there, I was told I’d just be on bedrest.” – Shalini (3:47)
Listen as international physical and emotional pain relief expert Shalini Joshi Yamdagni shares how she went from chronic pain in which doctors prescribed bed rest for the remainder of her life, to completely healing herself.
“When a mother is sick, the whole house suffers.” – Shalini (4:00)
Shalini’s mission is to empower you to consciously take charge of your health and well-being so you can live your life fully. Her remarkable story will leave you with tools reconnecting you to your own inner strength and power. Learn how to heal your physical, emotional and spiritual pain right now.
“If you listen to your body when it whispers, you won’t have to hear it scream.” – Shalini (27:39)
In This Episode:
(2:30) – How increasing dosages causes greater pain.
(4:04) – What happens when you’re committed to a lifetime of bedrest.
(8:01) - Discovering your chakras and healing powers.
(9:14) – Unlocking the power of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)..
(11:04) – Healing with videos on energy point techniques.
(17:20) – How to heal emotional pain
(19:25) - How stress impacts the body.
(20:21) – How various symptoms message your body.
(22:08) – What pain in your life are you ignoring?
(25:41) – Is pain tolerance a solution?
(29:05) – Emotional spring cleaning of the different closets that reside in you.
(30:00) – How stuck energy drains you.
(30:54) – Benefits of releasing energy.
(34:02) – Taking charge of your health and well-being.
(35:21) – PAIN means Pay Attention Inward Now.
Resources and Links
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Shalini Josh Yamdagni
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Lauren [00:00:00] Last year I was in Greece on the most incredible Island when suddenly I was in excruciating pain. And I remember hearing about Shalini and how she had been completely and totally bedridden with two little kids. And the doctors told her, “you're just going to be in bed for the rest of your life.” They just wrote her off. And this is the most incredible episode because she's totally fine now, she cured herself. So I went online, and I was able to do what she had done to try to fix myself because I wasn't going to waste my time in Greece being in pain. For message, also work on emotional pain and spiritual, not just physical. And she's amazing. She's beautiful on the inside and out, and she's so well-spoken. So, enjoy the episode.
Lauren [00:00:53] Welcome to 52 Weeks of Hope. This is where you get to hear how to feel happy, balanced and worthwhile. How to make that lonely ache vanish and feel empowered, confident and secure. I'm Lauren Abrams, I get to help you feel that magic again. Since going through my own dark night of the soul by chatting with incredible leaders, healers and elders who give us their messages of hope after overcoming challenges of their own. Today we're talking to the international physical and emotional pain relief expert Shalini Joshi Yamdagni. Are you stuck in pain? Always feeling overly anxious and ready. Now for relief, you get to hear Shalini right now. She was diagnosed with an illness and was in chronic pain for months after doctors prescribed bed rest for the remainder of her entire life. She went on this profound journey and healed herself completely. Shalini is now on a mission to empower you to consciously take charge of your health and well-being and live the life you truly want to today. An incredible episode. Welcome to 52 Weeks of Hope, Shalini.
Shalini [00:01:48] Thank you so much, Lauren. Thank you for that introduction, and I'm so honored and excited to be here.
Lauren [00:01:54] Yeah, I can't wait to hear all the ways that you heal and your journey and everything, and you're in Thailand, so I appreciate that you got the time difference correct. We all want to heal ourselves. And I know for me, it's like I remember when I heard instant gratification. Is it fast enough? Like we want, what would I want when I want it? That kind of thing. Hopefully I'm more balanced today, but I definitely remember when I first heard that laughter, I always refer back. I'm not sure what you healed yourself from, but how did you heal yourself and what were you diagnosed with?
Shalini [00:02:23] So, I was diagnosed with something called Costochondritis. It's basically an inflammation, a ligament that connects the breastbone with the ribs. And so what really happened was that, you know, I bought the diagnosis and they said, no big deal, I'll be gone in two weeks. They gave me the anti-inflammatory pills and pain medications and they said it wasn't a big deal. But, you know, I found out after two weeks of taking the pills, nothing had changed. And so I went back to the doctor and, you know, it's like it's so hurting. In fact, I felt like it was stronger. So what was happening is that when I took a deep breath in, I had this sharp pain in my neck and that was like constantly all the time. And so when I went back off medications, they said, Oh, you know, sometimes it just takes longer everybody's different and will give you a stronger medication that took this stronger medication. And I noticed that the pain was increasing, it wasn't decreasing. So I panicked and I was at the hospital again. And, you know, then this saga kind of went on for weeks and months when I was too light by the rebels because what was happening is the pain, instead of being localized in my left foot area, was slowly spreading over my left shoulder and to my right ribs and then my back. And so, you know, I went straight to reach my heart packed cold packs, ribs, support. You know, I was working at that time. And so they one of the doctors told me like, Oh, are you working on the computer all the time? And I said, Yes. And I said, Well, you know, we should get a chair with adjustable hand grenades because the constant weight of the shoulder, you know, is weighing down, you know, all kinds of things. So I actually bought myself a really expensive $600 chair, which had adjustable canvas. So it would support my weight, you know, but that didn't help either. So then they tried ultrasound therapy and physiotherapy and even acupuncture, but nothing worked. The scary part was that the pain kept increasing from that point in my left foot all over my upper body and even by lower. And so eventually, after trying everything possible out there, I was told you just beyond bed rest indefinitely. And you know, at the time, this is 2007. So my kids were five and six years of age. And when a mother is sick, then the whole family suffers. And I could drive my kids to school, I couldn't. You know, it was a shock. Like, how can I be on bedrest? And I asked them, like, So what happens next? What if it doesn't go away with bedrest? And then they said, you know, you'll be there's a surgical procedure, but there is no guarantee that that will fix anything. There was no guarantee there too. I was in a very pathetic place. And what happened to me, you know, the way I healed myself, jumping to that story, it's basically I used to be on bed rest all the time, and one of my friends one day knew that I was depressed because, you know, I was at home.
Lauren [00:05:23] Who wouldn't be depressed?
Shalini [00:05:24] Yeah. Exactly.
Lauren [00:05:26] In pain and you're basically be given this hopeless diagnosis, right?
Shalini [00:05:31] Yes. And I thought, like these experts and you know, Thailand is known for its medical tourism. So I thought for oh wow, like these experts, that people come to them around the world if they can figure out what's going on with me then I am stuck here the rest of my life and I'll just sit here and watch my kids. It was a very depressing time. And so on of my very good childhood friends, you know, she sent me an email about an upcoming self awareness seminar, and, you know, I didn't go anywhere those days. I hadn't been out for months. So she told me, Hey, why don't you come to this seminar? I will be there and even if you don't want to listen to it, at least we will get to catch up because it was kind of the location of the seminar was midway between her house and my house, and we were in different ends of the city. So I went to the seminar just to meet her. Not really to listen to anybody, because I thought if experts haven't been able to figure this out, like what is self awareness, I'm not going to do it. So I really just went to meet her and I came in late intentionally, so I wouldn't have to listen to all the crap. And by the time I sat on my chair, you know, and I scared the audience because like, I sneaked in and this host of this seminar had this board of which had a thought model. And basically it read that thoughts end with an arrow. Your thoughts create your emotions, which for me is disease and which is pain, something like that. You know, your negative thoughts create dis ease of feeling, of dis-ease. And if that feeling of disease stays along, you know, stays for a while, then it creates physical disease and pain. And then, you know, here was actually explaining better. And I couldn't, I wanted to get up and box that because I had been trying everything. So essentially what I was saying is I was creating my disease are my thoughts. And I said, no, I am desperately trying to help myself. And, you know, I'm doing everything out there to help myself. How can I possibly be meeting my pain? I was thinking, why isn't the fire audience like saying something like, this is not true? But what happened next was important because she told us very vulnerably his story where, you know, he went through a divorce, his business partner cheated him, he went bankrupt. The wife took the kids, his kids, and, you know, he was zero. And so he thought there's no point in living. So he actually took a chair, hung himself and, you know, was actually hung himself. But he got found by somebody, was rushed to the hospital and survived. And here he was three years later going from Thailand to Dubai, Malcolm to Singapore, to every country in this region, say you create your life with your bus. So I thought, hey, I'm not at that place, but I'm trying to kill myself. And I thought maybe he knows something that I don't. What if I just say, over because his story seems way worse than what I'm going through, I decided to stay open. And what happened after that was, you know, at the end of the seminar, they told us that they were doing these one on one sessions and register and sign up and they were doing a Chakra diagnoses like Chakra balancing workshop. And so I signed up for the one on one session and the Chakra diagnosis workshop because I just wanted to know what he knew. And it was amazing when I attended the Chakra balancing workshop, you know how everything is about energy. It was like I thought about that song, Aladin, A whole new world. It's like what? There's, you know, your thoughts because they had this pendulum with which they check the energy blocks and they taught us how to use the energy blocks. And suppose I would have a loft in my knee and, you know, I would just say an affirmation I've bent with the changes in my life I bent with the changes in my life. I bent with the changes in my life, which was the UNM blocking affirmation for the knee. Then the pendulum would start moving in the right, you know, in the right direction and my pain would be less. So I was fascinated like, Oh my God, you can just see a few things in your head and, you know, shift your pain now. So at the end of the seminar, I did that whole workshop and I asked this person like, I have a chronic pain do you think I can just say I need the affirmations and heal myself? And he said, Well, you know, the affirmations will help you temporarily. But we know about a technique, we don't practice it, but we know that. That has helped lots of people with chronic pain and the technique EFT or Emotion Freedom Techniques. And she gave me the website. There was only one website back then about emotion techniques. It was emofree.com by the founder Gary Craig. So I went to that workshop and I Googled. You know, I got to this link and I downloaded this 389 page manual and I began meeting at that night and they had explained the process of doing this EFT. It was very confusing, but because I had done the check my back, you know, balancing workshop, I knew about these energy points that they were talking about, but just done the workshop. And so I tried this process and I knew I was doing it wrong, but I tried it anyway, sitting on my bed at night, and I noticed instant shifts in my pain levels. Like instantly the pain in my right side of my neck wasn't so intense that I try to other parts of my body, my shoulder. And I noticed instant relief. And I was shocked and I was horrified, you know, Oh my God, I'd be shopping all kinds of medications for so many months. And there's this thing that you can do that you know, you can manage your pain levels instantly. I was happy, I was excited, I was crying and I saw on my Website that they had this video library of all their EFT, you know, training videos. So I went that night and I ordered every single deal at the library, you know, as a gift to myself because my birthday was coming up in September. And then I got those videos and for the next two months, I followed along. Of course, we were not focused on this particular disease, but whenever I learned, I started using this tool every day because I had nothing else to do. My kids would go to school and I would sit in the morning like binge-watching these videos and I would just follow along, make notes. So half of the day I would just tap along with what they were doing. And the second half of the day I would study the whole thing like, what is he doing? What is he asking? And as I applied those techniques on myself for about a month and a half, I was completely free from every single pain in my body and I was raised from my disease as well.
Lauren [00:12:22] What did the doctors say?
Shalini [00:12:23] I didn't really go back to the doctors many of them, and that is, as I was doing that topic, I noticed that significant and troubling because I could keep seeing the results and I stopped going to the doctor's in between I thought, that's useless. I'm not going there because I couldn't see any shifts, like even 10% progress. So at some point after one month of doing this process, I was back to driving my kids to school. I was back like there was a sense of normalcy in my life, and I'm not going back there again. That they just saw me. I'd been to the physiotherapist. I think I'll come back because I think five other doctors, you know, I just stopped going to the hospital, and then I was real of my disease and there was a doctor in White Building two. I stay in an apartment and she was a friend because, you know, we stay in the building and she had me helping me because I would go to her with my concerns and fears. That is this doctor saying the right thing. And now they've been telling me to give them. So I had been consulting firm also. And then one fine day she saw me coming up the elevator and she said, You're not wearing your neck support and your belt. I said, No, you know, I don't have pain anymore. And she was shocked. And she said, What happened? I want to know all about it. So I told her what happened and then she had a like chronic pain that she had been treating herself. And she said, I want to try this. So she came over and I did whatever I knew. And within like four times of doing this, she was free from a five-year leg pain. It was God. And then she got really excited about this and she started telling her friends about it. And it really shocks if a doctor is recommending you. And so that's how, that's how it started. And we got certified.
Lauren [00:14:05] Well, when you started getting well and I mean just well and pain free, the relief I can't even imagine the relief of being pain free. I mean, if I can hurts and I just it hurt more. It's relief. I can't even imagine having that kind of freedom just when we're sick and we're not sick anymore. It's just like we appreciate and are so grateful for our health. I mean, I'm grateful for my health anyway. But you didn't you want to tell everyone.
Shalini [00:14:28] You know I did. Well, you know, the first people that were amazed were my kid, my kids and my husband. Right? Because they were like, you mean, I wasn't really seeing anybody at that time. I was on my own. And I remember as I was doing this tapping, you know, one day I had started going to school and dropping my kids off. And one day my daughter, you know, she had stomach pain after she was coming back. And so we were talking in the car and I said, do you want to try this this thing that I do? Maybe we.can help you with your stomach pain. And she said, Well, my pain is different mum like yours was different do you think it's going to work? Because they'd been seeing me doing this a long time and I was driving again. So, you know, there was a big shift. They would see that. And so we did this tapping on her and her stomach pain was gone within a few minutes, you know, as we went back home I did this tapping. Wow, you have magic fingers, Mom. And then, you know, with my son, too, we did this tapping and I think by the time he was a bit older, he was doing this process by himself. I remember this was a bit later, but yeah, immediately it was just my family realized this and it was my friends, but it was just word of mouth because the doctor told friends and the people in the building found out and I don't know how, but the words spread me one person at a time and before a year went by and had like the Bangkok Post, the national newspaper, reach out and write articles and magazines. And somehow I was getting recommendations. You know, people were coming to me because doctors were recommending them, because they had read this article that Bangkok Post and there was people with sinusitis, not just seeing it was people with sinusitis wanting sinusitis and it's not going away. And the doctor told this, this lady that try this tapping technique because, you know, even if you do the operation, it's going to come back. And so I was getting people from word of mouth because like the article is that without it being written in the local magazines. And so I didn't really because, you know, I tapped about it because we have all these limiting beliefs, right? And I thought no body is ever going to believe that I just like taps and said certain things and I healed myself of a disease that the doctors couldn't.
Lauren [00:16:51] Or the chakras.
Shalini [00:16:52] Yeah. The problem is, if the person came to me, you know, I would check them once and I wouldn't, you know, kind of guess what possible clauses there are. I was like a reading sleek. And then I was reading Andy, Judith Means of Lives and all books on, you know, says, What is it? Anatomy, the Anatomy of the Spirit and all kinds of books on Chakra diagnosis. But I was so fascinated, and I realized that every part of your body has, like, the technical stuff, the organs and everything. But there's also an emotional component for every part of my body.
Lauren [00:17:26] Which I wanted to get to, like how you heal the emotional and what you do for that, the emotional pain, because you've been talking strictly physical and what kind of affirmations that you recommend and what do you do and tell people because there's such a general malaise and people there's a lot of people just feel like I've been giving, giving, giving that a lot of it's not just women that listen, but women are givers a lot more than men. Oftentimes I don't want to gender stereotype too much, but and they feel like I've been giving, giving, giving and now life's passing me by. And just that malaise and what would you tell somebody to do when they just they feel like, oh, my purpose in life, I'm not doing it. And I maybe I don't even know what it is or do you know what I mean? What would you recommend for that?
Shalini [00:18:10] So there are a lot of things you just said.
Lauren [00:18:12] I know,
Shalini [00:18:13] Let me break it. So, for example, to get to the emotional in my experience and it's my beliefs that all physical issues really have an emotional mental component because your mind, body, spirit, you're not body, your body doesn't do its own. You know, it's not on its own. It's part of a system, its mind, body and spirit. So what's going to happen in your mind and what's happening in your heart is going to affect your body. You know, when you are angry, you know, suddenly your heart starts beating faster, your muscles get, you know, tensed up. So emotions cause physical things to happen. And if you've got something going on for a long period of time, Right. Even just one incident that happens, even if a thought just comes into your head that my mom's really sick, or I can't travel, even that just, you know, just creates so much disease inside of you. So imagine now if you've got something that's going on for a long period of time, it's the ongoing thing. And so when you have like chronic stress, then you have chronic a state of disease within and you know, the body is very intelligent. It knows how to heal itself, It knows how to produce a baby, it knows how to deal with skin when it's, you know, bruised or cut. But when you're under stress, then the body's stress response chips it and which being, you know, it starts doing like a fight and fight. It's a fight and fight response because it doesn't know, you know that before it used to be that if a tiger came, the body got into a fight and fight response and did everything to survive, either to fight it out or to run. But now we still have that part of the brain that gets triggered. But right now, the brain doesn't know that a nasty email is just, you know, as important a threat. To you. You know, he doesn't know how to tell the difference. And so even if it's just a simple thing, a comment, a nasty email or somebody said something to you, it gets into the stress mode. And what happens is when your body's is in stress mode, all the resources of the body, all your energy is focused on this stress issue. And so it's not that the body's systems are not doing what they're supposed to be doing because there are not war zones. They're in a fight. They are you know, they're using all their resources to fight the strong state. And so that's the problem that happens when we are stressed. Right. And so there is also the other part of the body that's called the relaxation response.
Lauren [00:20:41] And so that doesn't get as much press. .
Shalini [00:20:45] The relaxation response is when the body is, you know, at a state of ease, it's only and only then the body's self-healing and self-care mechanisms get to work and it does what it needs to do best and how to heal itself. And so when you're stressed and you're upset and you're emotionally not at ease, then you know, all these physical symptoms show up. I like to say that your symptoms and your pain and your illness is just a message from your body. Now, that's just one piece. The other piece is that, you know, chronic pain specifically is a multi-layered problem. Acute pain is just, you know, burn your hand, something happens and that's acute pain. But chronic pain is something that gets there way beyond whatever, you know, you may have injured yourself or whatever's happened. It takes way longer to heal. It goes on for months, decades and much longer. So chronic pain has many layers. I like to, you know, explain it, like think of it like the layers of the ocean there's a surplus layer where you're visibly hurting and there's a little layer underneath the surface. When you go like scuba diving or snorkeling, not scuba diving. And there's the pain and there's this frustration I can't do what I want to do where this pain is limiting me. And I feel so frustrated because I can't take part in these activities and all of that. And then there is a deeper layer of pain, which is the scuba diving, which is all the sounds that we have to repress and we don't, you know, that unconsciously come to mind. The old hurts, the old feelings, feelings of anger and guilt and shame, which are not everyday emotions. So they're just a daily stress is all about being frustrated. Well, and irritated, you know. So there's a deep layer of emotion. And then there's the seabed layer, which is at the age, the childhood issues and all like stuff. So to heal, chronic pain, you need to address all the different layers that are, you know, contributing to the pain. And so, you know, one of the ways so how do you access these underlying emotional mental layers there is so in it you can have cheap questions. Then you can ask yourself to access these emotional layers, which is one of the things you can say is, you know what, pain in my lives And I ignore it because physical pain is also what emotional pain. So that's one of the questions you can go back to When did my Pain start? And you might say, why is that relevant? Well, because your body started speaking to you then letting you know that something is off balance and you can go back even farther and ask yourself, what was the key stress in my life when this pain started, or what was some of the issues that were stressing me, setting me even before the pain started? No. Let me give you an example of how I did this process. So I have chronic pain and it's all over my body. And so I started, you know, asking myself, what's the pain? And for me, it's so completely unrelated. You would never think that this can cause this. But my frustration back then was that I was 38 years old and I hated the job I was in, absolutely hated it. I thought I was wasting my life. I thought I was, you know, contributing in a meaningful way. And I thought there was this ache in my soul that I didn't know what my purpose was.
Lauren [00:24:03] I didn't know that that that is what so many people suffer from.
Shalini [00:24:08] Yeah. And you would never think that that is responsible for your chronic pain. But it is because it's a soul, It's deep. It is like, you know, I used to feel like I'm moving around my life with an invisible mask, and I do like one week I can't breathe. And when I used to go to the office, I actually physically felt suffocated. I felt like I was being strangled. And I read an piece and that was such a big ache in my life. And so what was happening was because of that frustration and anger.
Lauren [00:24:41] Were, you verbalizing it or you were keeping it in?
Shalini [00:24:43] I was verbalizing it to my family, you know, But basically I was saying, I hate my job, I hate my job. I don't like the people. I don't like this. But my husband is like, why don't you leave? Why don't you leave? But I you know, I wanted to be I had a flexi time kind of job. There's just my kids and I didn't want to give that out. And the rage tells you that you can't have both. You can have this, but you can't have that, too, because, you know, at the Time Island, like I didn't know anybody who was having like there were not many people who had flexi time, those hours for their work. And for me, it was really, really important that I stayed with my kids and I'd be at home. And now that has, you know, like right of the childhood novels, because I was in a boarding school, I was, well, when I was six and a half all the wayI never had anybody I never had my parents around when I was sick or in the child. And so I was on a like a mission that I am going to be that mom that is there when her kids come home. And, you know, and so this is linked now.
Lauren [00:25:47] Now you are sick in your bedridden.
Shalini [00:25:49] Yeah, because I'm not quitting the job because I want to be at it with my kids because of the pain of mom was never around. Dad was never around. I never had the guidance. So it's all linked. So you can see the disempowering layers and also the limiting belief systems, right? Right.
Lauren [00:26:07] Yeah, totally.
Shalini [00:26:09] I'd have your cake and eat it too, Shalini, you can have it all and you can have. You know, I got married to my high school boyfriends. I think you have the most wonderful husband. You have gorgeous kids. I have family in Thailand. And I said, So being ready, you can't have it all. You can't have an ideal job to me just to get it and just tolerate it. But tolerating pain is not a solution, it costs. And so when I was in pain and I hated my job and I came back home to be with those loved ones that I really wanted to be there for, I was a monster of a mother screaming at them. I was pouring out all my frustrations, and then that would lead to a cycle of feuds. And she and worst mother ever and monster mom and I would not be able to sleep in peace and I'd go back to the same crappy job. And it was a cycle of pain, like a hamster on a stop on a plane, a wheel that I didn't know how to stop it, but it was. And I, you know, use this tool to start releasing the anger and the guilt and the shame and the frustration. Anger at myself, anger at people, anger, you know, from childhood. But nobody was ever there to guide me. And that's why I don't know what my purpose is. I had this again, going back to child when I was a good singer, when I was little. But in my school I didn't have any, you know, both vocal training classes. And I'm talking about like the early eighties. I was in the middle ground in India, you know, and they didn't have any of that. So I kind of felt this anger that like I didn't get an opportunity. And now my for exploring Battle's application, it's gone. So now I'm just going to live my life without any meaning and purpose. It was just a mix of all kinds of emotions from childhood, some, you know, current situations and the current stress that second meeting, a tsunami of emotion, that it's no wonder that my body was screaming. And that's why it's really, really working, you know, to not ignore the emotional mental energy that you're feeling and show up in stronger, bigger ways. You know, I'm writing my book right now on chronic Pain, actually, and knows a cold by unknown. And it's sad if you listen to your body when it whispers, you won't have to hearing it scream. And my body was screaming like, I can't do this. I can't do life anymore. And I wasn't fed. And so that's the different layers of pain. An EMT really sense what emotional metal techniques the words says is right, that emotional freedom. And so what it is, the way you work with this tool is basically it's a combination of modern psychology and ancient acupuncture techniques. So what you do is you tune in emotionally, mentally, to what is upsetting you would be, I hate my job. You know, it could be that. And then you tap with your own fingertips on key acupressure points on your body. So there are two aspects to this technique you tune in to what's upsetting you, whether it's a physical pain, emotional pain, and you start tapping on key acupuncture points in your body as you tune in to what's upsetting you. Because when you tune in, you're feeling the anger, you're feeling the frustration, all that is surfacing. And now when you start tapping on the key acupuncture points on your body, just with your fingertips, lightly tapping them, it clears this. It stimulates the energy meridians in your body, these energy channels that we have, and it clears that disturbance and you start to feel peace about the same issue that you were, you know, whether it was a physical pain or an emotional pain. And so as you start clearing, sort of like doing a string cleaning of the different emotional basics of your life. Is start offloading your systems, your body systems, of these heavy emotions. And people don't understand like what's emotion start to do with, you know, what's how is it affecting you're wanting what emotions are energy, emotion. So is it always give this example that if you're a small kid and your dog dies and your dad says, Son, don't cry will get under the dog. Boys, don't cry. You know, be strong. When the dog died, there was an energy. There was. Why is it that was the emotion, right? The energy in washing with rising is a natural thing to happen when something bad happens. But instead of allowing that crying to happen and release the snow, it was kind of like boxed in. And he never got to release this emotion. And so it stays stuck there. So it's like suck energy, which was supposed to be in motion, but it's stuck there. And that's just one incident, one upsetting and like that. We have so many incidents, current incidents past and some that just lie buried and stuff and it's like jammed pipes jammed energy pipes in your system. If you have, let's say, 100% energy to work with on a daily basis and 50%, 60% is just jammed up, like how much do you have access to? Right? So as you change this process to release and Leo and detox your body of all this heavy stock energy, suddenly there is, you know, the energy starts flowing. I remember when I did this process, but just to treat meets, I noticed that I would have such deep diaphragm breathing. And the said what that was because there was this big release and now the energy was flowing. And if your energy's working, that means the oxygen is one key every part of your body initially. So so you know, your whole body benefits by releasing all this friction energy in your system and it gets back into snow. And the more ease you start to do within, you know, you just to have a certain level of ease, daily experience, health and wealth. And so this is a wonderful mind body tool because you tune into your mind, physically tap on the body. So it takes care of what the mind, the body and spirit. And as you use it daily, you say not garden level of ease. When you're at a level of ease, your body knows your body cells, new parents, self-healing mechanisms, chicken, and you return to your natural state of health and wellbeing. And that's basically what happened. It took me diligently releasing and searing and letting go. And the reason I kept doing it, I know it's overwhelming and I was doing it alone, but I was a desperate mom, you know, and my children were Why me? Is it to not give up, to keep going?
Lauren [00:32:44] But you are seeing you are seeing results, too. If somebody doesn't know exactly how to do it, you're anybody who doesn't know. There's YouTube of all my podcast, and she's kind of showing she's talking. But you have YouTube.
Shalini [00:32:57] Yeah, you can you know, I have a YouTube channel. It's very simple. It's called e f T with showing.
Lauren [00:33:04] Me, okay, that's easy. And we'll have we'll have links for all of this.
Shalini [00:33:07] If you just go to if you would challenge, you know, come across different G lists and there's, you know, the basic introduction topic and you can learn the whole process and begin to experience instantly. But then there are other videos on my YouTube channel which are like emotional, you know, yelling, diety, cheering, limiting beliefs. And there's about for like 200 videos there that you can use to tap all kinds of issues, physical and emotional.
Lauren [00:33:36] Yeah. Now, what would you tell somebody who says, Oh, come on, your body just worked itself out? When they start telling you that you just kind of walk away.
Shalini [00:33:45] Usually people are pretty fascinated. They're curious. They're curious because, you know, they know that I was in funny name. They know I was adventurous and, you know, so people don't dismiss it. They are more curious. So even the skeptical ones will, like, roll their eyes and say, wow, So and I, you know, all I see is give it a go. It's great. It doesn't hurt and it's available at your fingertips. And I have all these YouTube videos, so give it a go. Yeah, right, right. Very five doesn't hurt and only like you might just benefit from it. So it works faster than a Tylenol. Did you have a headache? So why not give it a vote and then it's up to them. But I find people get more curious than dismissive.
Lauren [00:34:31] Yeah, I'm sure I normally ask, do you have a message? I hope. But I feel like you are a message. I hope just in everything. But do you have a message of hope other than what you've already talked about?
Shalini [00:34:40] One of the things that people don't realize that I go through from even today is that life happens every day and unexpected happens every day. And the only thing you know, we cannot control what's happening outside, but it's really important to take charge of what we can take charge of, and that is your health and your well-being. And so, you know, you have a message of hope. My thing is get equipped to learn to take care of yourself so that you can be you can be your best selves and help others. And what people don't realize is that every day we go through an emotional landscape of experiences. And if your dogs have a daily habit of taking care of yourself, whatever it may be, then eventually it adds up. And so you taking care of yourself is the best gift that you can give yourself, your family, your work and everything else. And the truth is that your insight is creating your outsides, that you can learn to find ways to take out insults that equip yourself with tools that can help you, then I think that is the best hope that you can offer to yourself and others. And there this wonderful definition of pain that I came across by this woman. Iyanla Vanzant, something like that. And she says, pay attention in word now. Pay attention in word of mouth, because if you pay attention inward and take care of what's going on with you, then there's a lot of hope. Morning in your life, in your loved ones and immediate people around you.
Lauren [00:36:21] I like that. Do you have things that you do on a daily basis besides tapping that you make sure that you do?
Shalini [00:36:26] Oh, yeah. So before I went, it's now 9:00 in the morning, but the first thing I woke up, I wake up at five, I go for a morning walk. I sit after a couple of rounds, you know, sit and meditate every single day, 15 minutes. And I actually meditate throughout the day like I take a break and then I meditate a couple of times. I do transcendental meditation, but I haven't like a whole morning routine. So, you know, meditate, come back, and then I do some journaling. And then I also do this thing called lasting monastic questions where I write down physically, why am I in the best of health? Why is everything working out so wonderfully, wonderfully? Why are my kids so happy? Why, you know, every area of my life, I just have these questions that I've learned. I think they're called affirmations for machines. And then I do tapping, and I'm a constant tap on that. I do that for like, Oh, I have an eight. I mean, I do a body scan every day to see, do I have a stiff neck? Because these are the whispers from your body. If you listen to the whispers you don't hear, it's great. So I listen to the West Coast and there are a lot of whispers these days because there's a lot of things happening. India has been worse, you know, worse, the apocalyptic kind of situation. And I couldn't be there. My dad's 87, my mom's 79. And so there is a lot happening. And so it shows up physically in your body. So you can do a physical step every day to say rather aches and pains and you can actually tune in and tap. I do an emotional, you know, check in at different times during the day, in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening. And definitely before I go to sleep, it's like kind of wind up, you know, daily shower, morning shower, evening shower and just clearing my body as much as I can. And one of the reasons I switched especially is because when you are emotionally cleared and when there's less friction, not only is your body internal, but for me it's a very spiritual thing because you can really listen to your intuition, to the messages that are coming from, you know, divine intelligence. And so for me, I have this. My kids say, Mom, you know, you're a tapping freak. You just tap on a reason. But by me, what I call it is constant, meaning a constant contact with the divine. And so I find that things happen with so much more ease. And I feel connected with divinity, and I operate by most on intuition. And so that's the other aspect of clearing your cell, your solid state, your chastity, that just we are in the accounts that people so you're not holding on to the grudges is not leading to anything. They kind of in a state of flow. I do a lot in my daily routine.
Lauren [00:39:21] I love that. And I'm so glad I asked the question. And of course, your son says that it's your kids. It gives you a vibrating at a higher frequency. I completely get that. Oh, I'm so glad we got to chat today. I really enjoyed it all morning for you.
Shalini [00:39:35] It's a fresh start. This is like, you know, the peak time where I've just done a contest. And so it's wonderful to be talking at this time.
Lauren [00:39:42] I was actually thinking I should make sure I talk to everybody in the morning because this was just perfect. So thank you so much for being a guest today on 52 Weeks of Hope.
Shalini [00:39:51] Thank you so much for having me. It was wonderful having this conversation and I hope your audience get something out of it.
Lauren [00:39:58] Yeah. And like I said, they will. You guys will all be able to reach Shalini with the show notes. Everything will be all the links will be there. So you'll have no trouble finding her. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode and take with you the messages of honesty, gratitude and an open heart. Such great messages to take into your week ahead. Be sure to tune in next week for another empowering episode all about how to live abundantly, authentically and how to have fun. It's a great episode that's super upbeat, and that's next week. You definitely don't want to miss that. Be sure to sign up for a free confidence and clarity boost sessions. If you're struggling, this might be for you. It's for those who feel like life's passing them by. Your inner critic scoring nonstop, you're feeling burnt out and jealous of those who are doing what you wish you were doing. Just go to the website. It's 52 weeks of hope and sign up over there. If you're enjoying the podcast, share the love and tell two of your friends. I'm Lauren Abrams. Thanks for listening.